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Change Your Life:
The Secrets to Making Love Happen!
"Sex Drives"
Chapter 8, Page 3 (Partial excerpt)
Danielle: The Sad Sexy
Self-Destructing Slut
Many years ago, I attended a handwriting analysis conference
in San Angelo, Texas. There, I learned quite a bit about people
and their handwriting. But the most valuable lesson came not
from a lecture, but from a cocktail waitress named Danielle.
Experience was my best teacher at that conference.
After a day of lectures and discussions, I found myself in the hotel lounge. I was dancing and drinking with four women, who happened to make up the executive board of this particular organization. They were all very competent handwriting analysts as well as fun people. (By the way, I have found when you spend your free time with people who are already accomplished, your chances of becoming more successful increase dramatically.) I thought if I could spend my evening with anyone, why not with the leaders? As I was the youngest person at the conference, I kept my eyes open for an attractive woman who was closer to my age. Although I really enjoyed dancing and visiting with these older women, I was looking for something a little different. Shall we say... a romantic evening.
The most likely candidate was the waitress. She was drop-dead beautiful, long blond hair, and had a body like a model. She had everything in the right place. Although I learned from her personality, her good looks certainly made the lesson more enjoyable.
To make a long story shorter, I asked her for a sample of handwriting on a napkin. She complied just like most people do when you make that offer. Unfortunately, I never made it home with the napkin. Therefore, the handwriting sample shown here is my best rendition of what I remember it looked liked. I analyzed her handwriting and then my analyst friend analyzed her writing also. Danielle sat in bewilderment as her life unfolded in less time than it takes to down a drink.
Danielle was quite a character. The first thing I noticed in her handwriting was that she had no upper loops. No upper loops signifies a lack of a stable morality or ethics. I jokingly call this type of person a sociopath. This means that whatever feels good at the moment, she does. It is a nice trait to find if you like one-night stands. However, I would never date or depend on someone like that. She had an imagination twice the size of reality (huge lower loops) and a failure complex so bad she could screw up a one-man funeral.
Danielle also possessed an anger directed at all men (stingers), a desire for attention (high ending strokes), and basically a logical, self-centered, emotional outlay (AB writer). Linda saw that she had an eating disorder in her handwriting. Danielle was amazed because it was absolutely true. Judging by her thin, lean body, she could have had a serious eating disorder, but from a man's perspective, it looked all right to me! (Doesn't this kind of male insensitivity just make you want to purge?)
Linda saw something I didn't: potential. Although Danielle had some big round m's and n's she also had just as many steeple pointed ones (fast thinking patterns and not depicted in sample writing). It surprised me she was such a quick thinker. Linda told her of her unlimited potential and that her lack of self-esteem was always holding her back. When she said this, I saw a sense of happiness and joy in Danielle's eyes that was magical. "You mean I'm not stupid? I can be successful some day, I am smart?" It saddened me to see a person with such a good mind to be stuck with such a low self-confidence level about her intelligence. As the story unfolded, her father had frequently told her she was stupid and incompetent. Like most impressionable children, she believed what people said. Words are very powerful things.
Danielle, like many people with low self-esteem, dwelt on the bad points. The reason I didn't mention her potential is because the handwriting only reveals what the personality is at the time of the handwriting sample. The future is not mine to predict. It is the sole responsibility of the individual. Besides, people with no upper loops have difficulty visualizing the future. They are stuck in today, the moment. At the time Danielle wrote for me, I didn't perceive her as having any of the fundamental personality traits to achieve any substantial success. She had a good mind, but too many self-sabotaging traits to achieve lasting success. Of course, I didn't tell her this, as it was my opinion and wouldn't have been a benefit to her.
On the other hand, everyone has their own destiny or potential in their own hands. If Danielle changed she might achieve something. Since I'm not into fortune telling, I don't talk about what will or could be when I analyze handwriting. I do, however, point out the positive traits and encourage the client to accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative. But, from the writing, I could tell this woman was pretty screwed up. I was right. In Danielle's case, I saw certain traits which told me she had the cards stacked against her in achieving any level of success or happiness. It would take dramatic, drastic changes for her to overcome her problems. Although she had some really messed-up subconscious personality traits, she was congenial, friendly, funny, and cute. The handwriting reveals the best and worst of a person at the deepest level. Danielle was quite fun and personable on the surface. I really liked being with her, although my logic reminded me that her real personality was not what I was searching for. But I wasn't going to marry her. And... it was all for research. I hope you appreciate the sacrifices I made to write this book!
Back to the story. After ignoring her other customers for about fifteen minutes because she preferred to talk to us, she went back to serving drinks. She took every opportunity to come by and talk. Around closing time we started talking about my travel plans after the weekend. Coincidentally, she was going the same direction as I was in order to spend time in her hometown. So, I invited her to ride with me to Lubbock and I'd take her home on Monday. At first, she thought I was kidding. "Are you serious?" she asked insecurely. I could drive five hours alone or spend it with a knock-out blonde, of course I was serious. I asked her to meet me after she got off work and she agreed. What she didn't know is that I had not renewed my hotel room for that night, so I needed a place to stay. I thought with so many women at the conference why should I spend thirty dollars for a cold hotel bed when I was sure I could find a more comfortable bed for free. I did.
After we left the bar, we walked around the park for a little while. We held hands and she invited me to stay at her place that night. When we got to her apartment, she went to tell her roommate she was home. She then asked me the most incredible question. Danielle said, "You know, it seems like I've known you all my life but I forgot to ask you what your name was... what is it?" I stuttered, "Bart... Bart Baggett." I tried to hide my immense feeling of accomplishment by getting such tremendous rapport with a woman that she invited me into her home and agreed to spend two days traveling with me without even knowing my name. This is just another testimony to the power of handwriting analysis and simple rapport development skills. People get so wrapped up in talking about themselves, they drop all those little social traditions, like handshakes, asking your name, and even the proverbial phrase, "Not on the first date."
Since I am a decent guy, I offered to sleep on the couch and she insisted that I sleep in her bed and she would sleep on the couch. I reluctantly agreed. I said goodnight and slept like a rock. Yes, I actually slept. The next morning when I went out the front door to get some clothes from my car she woke up abruptly, still half asleep, and said, "You're leaving. You're leaving me. Aren't you?" I was shaken at the honest pain in her eyes. It was obvious she must have been through a massive amount of betrayal and emotional pain. I went over to the couch and put my arms around her. "No, I'm not leaving you. I am just going to the car for a second." I could see she had some major problems she needed to work through. I knew my background as a therapist could help her, but it wouldn't be easy. I was glad she trusted me, because that is the first step. I made her bed and thanked her for the hospitality. I went to the conference for two morning classes then returned to pick up Danielle for a trip I would never forget.
As I mentioned, I slept at her place, I didn't sleep with her. By her handwriting, I knew she was insecure, sexual, and probably sexually easy. But, it is important that we use the knowledge handwriting reveals to help people, not take advantage of them. Guys should never throw themselves on a woman. In this case, she probably would not have put up any resistance. Anyway, most women prefer men who play hard to get. The only time you need to be sexually forward is to establish whether you are just friends or possibly more. Since I had already kissed her the night before in the park, that part of the relationship was established. It was romantic. Now, the fun part started, I just sat and waited until she chased me down and caught me. I knew she would do this for two key reasons I saw in her handwriting: the stingers and the lives for the moment traits.
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