Are You in Control or a Control Freak?

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1. Feature: Are you in Control or a Control Freak?
2. F.A.Q.
3. Spotlighted Learning Tool
4. Discounts

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Are You in Control or a Control Freak?
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Franklin D. Roosevelt once said that 'we have nothing to
fear but fear itself."

The irony is that most of us believe that fear
protects us from harm when the reality is that it
often leads to controlling behaviours such as
paranoia, narrow-mindedness and aggression. We
convince ourselves that the desire to control others
is necessary to protect all, when in reality it is
displays a lack of faith in our own abilities to
handle any situation - no matter what the outcome.
The belief that fate is cruel often becomes a self-
fulfilling prophecy, as we insist on resisting, rather
than surrendering to life events.

Control freaks repeatedly suffer negative experiences
simply because they lack the belief that the universe
is a good place that is constantly "on the upswing"
and therefore is naturally inclined to provide luck
and opportunity as opposed to misery and threats.

Do you believe that life is inclined to flow correctly or
do you think you have to control events because life
flows against you?

For healthy individuals the idea of "losing control" is
actually associated with fun. Studies have shown that
developing character traits such as flexibility
adaptability and optimism are concurrent with a
greater incidence of good fortune in life.

Sadly, the typical control freak often achieves a
public self image that is the opposite of what they
are trying to achieve with their pretence of force and
authority. They are often disliked by others and
perceived emotionally insecure, rather than as
powerful people. The desire to control is based on a
fear of change and a conviction that all change is
negative. This outworn defense mechanism is usually
left over from a childhood where the individual may
have learned the fine art of over-vigilance due to a
toxic or unpredictable parent. In adult-hood
"necessary protection" becomes a paralysing and self
defeating liability as the control freak refuses to
accept a certain ages old cosmic law --the more we
attempt to manipulate or control events, the more they
seem to control or manipulate us.

Control freaks actually have less control in the end.

The sages say, "The pain is in the struggle. The more
we attempt to control, the more lose our ability to
manifest success. Evidence of this kind of self-
sabotaging struggle is indicated by certain
handwriting traits:

Primary Control Traits:

Does the writing look pretty and perfect? If so, then
that person has a fear of not being perfect. Get it.
If they exert that much time and precision to make
the baseline straight and the letters all match - then
they have a fear of things being "out of place."

Controlling individuals are also over concerned with
detail and the way his or her writing appears on the
page. Often, this is shown by making sure that each
small i is capped very closely by its dot.

The writing may also expressive retentiveness in other
ways: successive or repeated letters may be formed
identically through out the document with a particular
emphasis on up and down strokes being identical.
Each line of writing may appear super straight, as
if a ruler underscored each line of the manuscript.

The above is the "gestalt" or overall rhythm and look
of the writing.

The following trait is a specific stroke: domineering.

A domineering personality will often cross their T's
from left to right in a downward motion. If it is low
on the stem - then you throw in a low self-esteem and
this compounds the insecurity.

If the t-bar dips to the right and into the baseline with
a sharp point (sarcasm). . . watch out.

If the t-bar has a blunt ending the person is just
dominant, not domineering. (domineering has negative
connotations, dominant can just be a good type of control.)

An indication that you are dealing with a potential Hitler
is if the t resembles little stick figure man leaning
to the side trying to touch his right hand to his right
toe. This reveals great instability and an individual
that is not only his own worst enemy -- he might become
yours!

When it comes to dealing with your unconscious fears,
"resistance really is futile." Changing your
handwriting can help you surrender those fears which
lead to controlling and self-defeating behaviours that
are unattractive to others and repel the kindness of
fate.

Donna West -Contributing Editor

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Q: I suffer from incredible stage fright but public
speaking is part of my new job. Is there any way I
can change my handwriting to conquer this fear?

A: There was a poll done years ago that claimed most
Americans feared public speaking even more than they
feared death. To address this, examine your T's and
D's. If the t is looped instead of a stroke you
probably suffer from low self-esteem. Raise your t to
increase your confidence. If the upper stroke of you d
is a fat bubble like loop it means you are
oversensitive to criticism, so work on narrowing loop
in the stem.

You can see images of these traits here:
http://handwritinguniversity.com/newslettersamples/deck/criticism.html

Self-conscious individuals also tend to start their
letters small at the beginning of a word and then
gradually increase their size by the end. This
indicates too much need for approval from others. The
key is to find the balance between your sense of self-
awareness and your sense of self-importance.

You can see images of these traits here:
http://myhandwriting.com/newsletters/111501.html

Q: Can an analysis of my handwriting help me find the
right career?

A. Absolutely. An analysis of the letters that occur
in your 'middle zone" such as your v's, r's m's and
n's can determine whether or not you are a
cumulative, investigative or analytical thinker. For
instance, an investigative thinker, who is often very
creative might be very uncomfortable trapped behind a
desk all day, while a cumulative thinker might find a
high pressure job that requires thinking quickly on
one's feet (such as air traffic controller) too
challenging. A comprehensive analysis of your middle
zone letters will give you an idea of the types of
working rhythms that will make you the happiest.

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